Moving from crib to bed is yet another milestone in your toddler's life. Keep in mind that there is no set age for this move so you will have to follow your toddler's lead (when she expresses interest, needs to get herself to the toilet or is climbing out of the crib) or leave it to circumstances (like a new baby who needs the crib) to determine when it's time. When you're ready, follow these tips to make the transition as smooth and positive as possible.
Don't Rush to Move from Crib to Bed
If your toddler seems perfectly content with the crib and there have been no escape attempts, it's really to everyone's advantage to maintain the status quo. Your toddler will be in a safe, comfortable sleep environment and there are no developmental issues that will arise from waiting to make this transition. You can safely wait until your child starts showing signs like trying to climb out of the crib or you can wait until your child is potty trained and needs to be able to go to the bathroom independently at night.
Don't Move from Crib to Bed During a Time of Stress
Just like starting potty training or any other potentially difficult transition from babyhood to toddlerhood, timing can be everything. If your child is coping with a recent move, divorce or illness it's best to try moving from crib to bed at a later time when things are calmer. And while many parents feel pressured to make the move when a baby (who will need the crib) is on the way, you should try and time it so that there's plenty of time for adjustment and the move doesn't coincide too closely with the chaos of baby coming home. A great time to start is when you're first pregnant or even a few months after the baby has arrived since a bassinet can be used at first.
Choose the Right Toddler Bed
If you purchased a convertible crib
, choosing a new bed is no worry and you may find the transition is a little easier since it's a basically the same piece of furniture. If you're choosing a new bed, make sure your toddler has some input after you've narrowed the choices and choose a bed that is durable and low to the ground to prevent injuries should your child fall out. If possible, sit and bounce on an assembled bed to test the durability. If it's falling apart or feels shaky at the store, don't buy it. If you're buying a used bed make sure all the necessary parts are included and there is no chipping paint (unless you plan on refinishing). Test antique beds for lead paint before use and avoid bunk beds
until your child is older.
Let Your Toddler Help Choose the Bed if Possible
When your child is a baby, she passes milestones with little awareness that she's doing something wonderful. Most of the excitement is ours. It can be easy to continue this into toddlerhood, but now is when the enthusiasm of passing a milestone can be shared or rest mostly with your toddler. In addition, the more involved she is in the mechanics of the transition, the more likely she is to cooperate and handle the move well. You don't want her to be overwhelmed with the decision however. Choose a few beds that you can absolutely live with, find or take pictures and let her choose which she likes most. Check it out at the store if possible and allow her to choose, always aware that her reaction may tell you a lot more than her words.
Let Your Toddler Pick Her Own Bedding
You won't be able to let your child choose her own bed if you already have a bed or are getting a bed handed down to you, but you can let her choose what goes on the bed. Let her choose her own sheets and a new blanket so she feels even more ownership and involvement in the whole process. If you can, pick up at least two sets so that you have a back-up for middle-of-the-night accidents or times when the dirty sheets are waiting in the dirty laundry basket for routine cleaning.
Allow Your Toddler to Keep Old Comfort Objects
Even though you'll be letting her pick out her new sheets and blankets, let her keep anything that she uses for comfort and self-soothing like special blankets or stuffed animals she sleeps with regularly in the crib. The time for letting these objects go can come later. Some parents experience success weaning from the bottle or a pacifier at this time and have toddlers that simply accept that these items are not allowed in the new bed. More, however, find that trying to wean these objects creates failure at both weaning and transition to the new bed. It just creates a feeling of too much insecurity, therefore, you might find it better to hold off on the tougher weaning activities for now so your toddler isn't overwhelmed by all the change.
Make Sure your Home is Child Proofed
Your toddler will no longer be confined to the crib by a wall of slats and it may take some time for her to get used to staying in bed at night. Verbally and physically (by returning her to her bed, repeatedly if necessary) reinforcing that she must stay in her bed at night is a must, but you shouldn't rely on that to keep her safe. Make sure that her immediate environment is safe and consider using an approved safety gate on the door to keep her in her room if she frequently tries to leave. Make sure the whole house is childproofed, too, so that she'll be safe if she wanders while you are sleeping. Stairs should also have gates and bathrooms should be child proofed for those middle-of-the-night potty runs.
Expect Some Tumbles and Prepare for Them
Previously, your child could roll about her crib all night and stay safely contained, experiencing only the slightest of bumps or bruises. With the big bed, she's likely to experience at least a few tumbles to the floor and more if she's a restless sleeper. Combat this problem by fitting the bed with side rails or placing pillows or a thick rug on the floor beneath the sides of the bed where she's most likely to fall. If the problem becomes especially frequent, bothersome or if you feel the bed is high enough to warrant risk of injury, you might consider placing the mattress directly on the floor and moving the bed out of the room until this phase passes.
Start With Naps Only
If your toddler seems keen on the idea of transitioning from crib to bed, by all means, jump right in. Place the bed where the crib used to be and see how it goes. If, however, your toddler seems worried, unsure or balks at the very mention of the big bed, then give it a try at naptime first. Have the crib and bed in the room at the same time using the bed for naps and the crib at night. Make sure she still has access to her favorite comfort items at both nap and bedtime. Once she seems comfortable with sleeping in the bed at nap, set a date to say goodbye to the crib and help your toddler count down to that date. You can mark off days on a calendar or move one stuffed animal per day from crib to bed until everyone has moved, for example.
Let a Sibling Lend a Hand
If your toddler has an older sibling, you can leverage a bit of peer pressure in the transition process. Consider having the two share a bedroom for a while so that your toddler can learn by example. She will see that her older sibling has no problems in the big bed and will learn that staying in bed is the norm at night. Having a sibling around at night can add to her sense of security and can nurture a sense of closeness between siblings as well. Beware of this method if the older sibling has problems staying in bed or if bedtimes are chaotic, however. Adding your toddler to the mix is likely to make the situation trouble times two.